Can we stop saying, “God helps those who help themselves”? At surface level it’s not sufficient, and at the theological core it’s a lie. God is in the business of, and calls us to join in, helping those who cannot help themselves.
The hope of saying “It’s all in God’s plan” is to offer comfort and solace. It hints that because it’s God’s will, God will help us through it. But ‘Everything Happens for a Reason’ is not a true Christian affirmation.