Christ says, if you want to follow me, deny yourself and take up your cross. This is not a simple invitation. It is, as Peter found, a radical deviation from the powers and desires of empires. It invites a humility and willing vulnerability for the sake of the gospel.
The language of love is erotic and steamy, just read Song of Songs (Song of Solomon). It’s a Biblical profession of the power of true love, and we shouldn’t limit it or water it down by writing it off as allegorical.